How I tricked my brain to refuse all temptations.
How I tricked my brain to refuse all temptations.
Intro.
SKRT.
I was biking down the steep, somewhat crumbly road leading to a sexy pedestrian crossing right beside the infamous Illawarra park with my mate and we decided to go shopping for lollies, chocolate and BAKED GOODS at Coles.
Clip is the crossing down the street although you’ll be talking in your room. Buy a baguette and hold it for “baked goods”.
And man, after buying everything that we looked at with even some level of desire in the store, the BOTH of us felt SO EXCITED as we rode back to Dad’s house, because we knew that there was also pizza for dinner.
SO MUCH TO CONSUME WOO.
But I’ll tell you what man, after we finished eating our pizzas, went back into my room, and after I took a big bite out of one of the COOKIES we’d bought…
I got a huge shock.
The cookie was absolutely NOWHERE near as good as I’d expected it to be.
The whole bag of lollies and stuff we bought seemed oh so less appealing.
And my tummy, believe it or not, was fucken full.
A completely illogical and unhealthy waste of 20 bucks at Coles.
My excitement had proven to have nothing to do with the consumption of the cookie itself, rather my anticipation that it would be pleasurable when I bought it.
To expand upon this same example and emphasise my point here, is that my friend and I would stay up for hours eating the stuff out of the Coles bag and watching shows.
And at the time it felt innocent… yet we did this EVERY WEEKEND at a point.
Over a few weeks even, this began to instil the habit in my brain of just buying stuff from Coles bakery for the sake of it, something that’s actually still with me now…
Innocent consumption, leading to many not-so-innocent consequences later on in regards to our habits, our character, our health in general, but most importantly what we perceive as normal.
Consequences that we were both blinded to, like fools.
At least you’re hearing this now, while many of your friends don’t truly understand.
This was point 1.
Once you’ve heard point number 3, feel free to leave a “wow” in the comments down below…
(DISCLAIMER)
A Peaky Pointer: if the temptation you’re facing is quite severe and hard to get over, you’ll wanna focus more on the next point point 2, and point 7 and point 8.
The other points serve multiple uses, but are unfortunately less effective for the deeply instilled habits.
I’ll identify this more clearly in the description.
Using Associative Habits to recondition temptation out of your mind.
Nearing the end of high school, as I struggled to study for the final exams in lieu of watching porn online, I admitted something to my friend Toby.
I told him that I’d been exposed to pornography since the ripe age of 11 and that I had somewhat of an unhealthy obsession over it.
Toby suggested that I “discipline” myself after watching anything lewd online.
I thought that was somewhat of an oversimplification of the issue.
But you know what, on a fresh and eye-watering Monday morning I got dirty.
Literally.
I started an Associative Habit of firstly getting a temptation, with taking off my clothes until I was only wearing underpants, then going outside and doing 5 snow-angels on the dirty, rocky driveway outside my dingy metal entry gate.
I’d come inside and have a cold shower - and I’ll tell you what it’s bloody cold in Melbourne.
With the annoying and inconvenient nature of this habit, I’ve since felt utterly deterred from even thinking about sexual stuff.
I’m not sure how much this applies to women, but for the men, would you like to stop being such a horny man?
Now keep in mind, when I’d done this habit a couple times, I began to think of all the other ways I could PUNISH myself , or “discipline” for watching stuff.
But I quickly understood, as I’m sure you’ll understand now, that you can’t set punishments that AREN’T Associative Habits.
Like I remember considering that the next day I could stop myself from buying any coffee or even watching any gaming YouTube at all OR ASMR.
But that would simply reinforce the idea that my identity still involves pornography.
We don’t want that.
Identity-shifting!
And oh shit, that’s our next point…
When COUPLING the Associative Habit with identity-shifting, you become somewhat of a weapon.
It’s true.
I’m sure you’ve picked up on it.
You remember the whole thing about being the kind of person who feels no desire for anything which doesn’t develop their character or strengthen their body, spirit or mind.
The kind of person who effortlessly refuses all urges and temptations, and is able to pass this capacity onto their friends, family and future children.
Hm…
I’ve come a long way from when I used to try and suck my own penis as a horny young male trying hopelessly to NOT be horny and not watch porn and not speak sexually to females.
…
So yeh the two most POWERFUL ways to address severe urges.
NOW let’s give you an immediate answer to all other temptations AND a lack of motivation PLUS some exact examples on Associative Habits to use when feeling various urges.
Use the Do Something principle to gain some momentum.
Here it is: the thing that blew my mind the day I took action on it.
Mark Manson’s famous creation.
The idea of simply doing SOMETHING random whenever you get an urge and then having that lead into other stuff which actually builds motivation within yourself until you begin doing some actual productive stuff.
Really simple, but incredibly effective.
And the first time that I implemented this about a month ago, to finish another Riley Caldwell video.
You know - one of simplicity and practicality.
I found myself cleaning my room and folding clothes and doing some dancing with my hips, before sitting back down in my chair and doing something that was actually ON my to-do list that I’d made the night before.
Heheheh…
Now, you and I both know what must be done.
We must tie both the Do Something Principal AND Associative Habits together.
Still simple.
But more effective?
You tell me…
Combining Associative Habits and the Do Something Principle in your dopamine-resisting arsenal.
Hopping right into the examples so that you know exactly what I want you to do.
Do it for me, as well as yourself please.
Clip zoomed in onto yourself in room.
Example 1: This one’s important to listen to because the next point relies on it.
Clip should be outside walking.
Scrolling on tiktok with your face in the phone and switching between the for you page and the one that has your friend’s weird and crappy tiktoks.
Clip should be outside walking. Scrolling with your finger then face in the phone.
A mindless zombie.
Clip should include minecraft zombie animation zombie comes into screen and makes “grrr” noise.
This isn’t new information though am I right?
You would do this:
Associate realising you’re doing this with hugging your phone to your chest and looking up as if in shock.
Filmed outside. Show the phone to chest and look up as if in shock.
But looking up should be the zoo lander face but looking slightly shocked. Camera facing you and zooming in. Funny stance.
Associate that with doing the next thing that comes to mind and turning your phone off at the same time (just pressing the button).
In room.
Associate that with grabbing the nearest object and holding onto it.
Associate this with pulling up the do to list on your phone while your hand’s on the object and looking at the next thing on your to-do list.
Associate this with doing it.
Example 2: Whenever you get the urge to walk into a fast food store as you’re walking down the street.
Associate beginning to walk towards one of these places that don’t actually have great tasting food and which have led to you spending lots and lots of money over time without realising it, with walking right up to the nearest wall with determination and placing your right hand on it.
Associate this with putting your hand on your hip and looking out like you’re looking out over a horizon.
Associate this with pulling out your phone and looking at your to-do list.
Associate this with nodding your head at your phone and progressing to do the next thing on the list.
You can do a similar thing for snacking in your own home.
Example 3: Vaping.
Whenever you pull out your vape, associate that with gripping it tigher and then putting your other hand above your fist so it looks like your holding the handle of a sword.
Associate that with closing your eyes and standing there with the “sword” for a few seconds.
Associate that with taking one puff because it’s probably better to taper off than to go full cold turkey depending on where you’re at with vaping, and hold it in.
While it’s held in, associate that with putting the vape away and pulling out your phone instead to check the to-do list.
Associate seeing the next thing on your list with nodding at your phone while blowing out the vape smoke.
Associate this with doing it.
Now, remember that 1st example of Tiktok?
Now we get REALLY funky with that…
Using Negative Visualisation to create drive.
Answer me this: What’re the REAL consequences of watching tiktok and scrolling forever while switching between the foryoupage and following page while cranking your neck and feeling unfulfilled?
Well how about this…
That leads to me being less social for real and not doing productive things, which leads to me not improving upon my character.
Which leads to my anxious tendencies to go un-addressed.
Which leads to me socialising even less with people, which leads to me not making many friends, and also not finding love, which will make me lonely for the rest of my life, which will completely prevent me from optimising any other part of my life, which will lead to me having no wife especially so, which will lead to me not having kids, which sucks.
This is called Amplification.
But incorporating Negative Visualisation here would be imagining yourself at the bottom of this shitty ladder.
Let me imagine it now.
(crying and fucked up)
Now you can do the same thing for the potential you have for trying.
For example, after becoming completely comfortable being myself around others and not being anxious to talk to and meet people, will lead to me seeking out people, which will lead to me experiencing more of life and not only learning from a wider variety of human and cultural experience, but doing more things and seeing more places, which will make me feel a sense of connection with humanity, which will further contribute to my ability to grow as a person in other ways, which will lead to me attracting those whose energy or path most matches my own, which will lead to me having a wife, which will lead to me having kids and leaving a genuine legacy.
Now, use your imagination again.
Now we’re ready for the last 2 points.
And once you’ve gone through all these, you and I can both go back to the basics - Associative Habits.
Force accountability into your life by creating a more positive environment.
Over my 3+ years of experience in the Arts of Psychological Reconditioning, I’ve only RECENTLY understood the pure value on changing one’s environment.
My friend Timi had just finished up his first month in the military, and BOY could he not stop smiling about the changes he’d seen in himself now that he was constantly surrounded by confident, hard-working non-over thinkers.
And this got Riley Caldwell (me) thinking…
The fact that Riley left home right after high school and then left the state was because he was trying to facilitate growth in himself by seeing the world and doing stuff on their own.
And also by directly learning from others.
And the FACT that this man started the Peaky Pines Community and ensured it was full of young and ambitious people who actually wanted to discover and take action on their own purest path, was another indicator that he knew subconsciously the power of environment on how you live, behave and ultimately grow.
This is why I’m now involved in online communities with people trying to do similar things to me in regards to what you might call self improvement, and also things like business growth.
If you’re still watching at this point, I’ll probably be seeing you in one of these communities at some point.
Might be on the same path.
And I may as well plug it in now, join the Peaky Pines Email Community down below 1st link in description.
After you’ve read some of the value emails, maybe you’ll join the Discord Community and we can do calls and stuff.
Or maybe you’ll join from the second email.
Anyways.
A HUGE part of online, or IRL communities is meeting mentors.
Because besides the man who teaches me jiu jitsu, whom I’d consider a mentor,
I’ve met some great people who I’m actively learning from inside of these online groups, who know a LOT more than me and who have more money than I have.
Perhaps they’re having more of an impact than me hehe.
I guess you can decide that once you’ve joined a couple of the weekly Peaky livestreams.
But yes - mentors.
Leave your comfort zone and find them.
Explore the world.
Can’t consume too much anymore - don’t wanna disappoint all of your peers and mentors.
That leads to them leaving you or not having any faith in you.
Which leads to you not learning from them anymore.
Which leads to…
Who knows? ;)
Last point now - you’re so close.
Doesn’t the air around you smell a little bit crisper now?
It does? I agree, now let’s finish with a banger…
The long-term solution to temptation-indulging. Direction and identity.
So it’s been a long video (just kidding, I know your attention span’s probably not THAT bad), but let me leave you with ironically the FIRST step of the process to tricking your brain to refuse urges.
Before I released the resource linked second in the description, the 10 Q’s to Find Your Purpose, I actually USED the questions inside of it to figure out where I PERSONALLY wanted to go in life, and then looked at what kind of a man would be living that life.
I was like damn, if I just become this person now, then I’m chilling.
So since we’ve already touched on identity, I’ll save you the time and just give you the step by step guide to finding direction and what you want.
Because when you’re on a JOURNEY, you don’t have time for temptations, you’ve got a priority and you’ve got stuff you gotta do with your time that’s actually meaningful.
So step 1 is fill out the 10 Q’s below.
Step 2 is utilise the Associative Habits Development Tool third link in description.
Shame they’re not packaged into one great thing.
Piecing all the puzzle bits together so that you can just take action without thinking - what a wonderful offer that’d be :)
After filling both of these out, consider the summary I provide in the next 30 seconds and go for it.
I’m glad I’m attracting the right people to my channel.
Now as promised…
The outro.
You fool, NO summary haha.
Not besides dopamine anticipation and giving into temptations because we don’t see the compounding consequences over time - immediately.
Not besides using uncomfortable Associative Habits and the Do Something Principle to respond to urges in a systematic and repeatable way.
Not besides Amplifying the consequences of your actions and the potential upside of addressing the things you’ve struggled with for so long.
Not besides changing your environment to invite mentorship, learning and accountability.
Not besides finding a sense of direction and using identity as a basis to make all of your decisions upon.
No summary besides that.
Lol.
I usually don’t do summaries, so I’m feeling generous.
What a generous video this is.
Guess you’re lucky to have stumbled upon it.
Maybe it’s because there’s a new chapter of your life coming up.
Maybe.
And maybe I’m in it.
If so, talk soon.
On a call inside the Peaky Pines Discord Community.
“How do I get there again?”
Peaky Pines Email Community - 1st link.
Or download the 10 Q’s and take action 👀 second link.
You might magically end up in the email community heheh.
(looks down)
Considering you read this far and clearly saw the value in this post, join the Peaky Pines Email Community.
Because this is the place for you.
And you will be welcomed.
Riley.
